I've often heard the phrase: "speaking the truth in love" being used to justify caustic outbursts but perhaps there is a need for more truth to be uttered by those on the receiving end so that patterns are not repeated and bad behaviour does not go unchallenged. Jesus called a spade a shovel and was not loved by all. Why is our need to be universally loved the stumbling block that keeps us from speaking up - for ourselves and for others. Grab your hard hats. This just might become a plain speaking blog!