Often, when things are tense and situations call for solemnity, I find myself focussing on inappropriate things, simply to ease the situation. At our friend's funeral last week, the driver of the hearse bore an uncanny resemblance to Father Jack from the Father Ted series. And islanders claim that that was him "tidied up". As funeral directors neither he nor his colleague could direct their way out of a paper bag but, for entertainment value and for adding a surreal air, they were a triumph. Certainly worked for me.